I've always asked myself could we be pleasant , kind , beloved , and in the same time , getting attention , independent with a stronger personality indeed. wouldn't they minimise me if i get closer and closer from them ? or should I keep distance from anyone and impose my own personality in order to gain respect ?( I get used to be shy , and as we know it's to hard to re-build our own personality , but I still have time =] isn't? )( I do apologise for any grammar-spelling mistake)