Où se trouve le problème? On est face à un homme (le Messager d'Allah) et de sa femme... il n'y a pas eu de pénétration vaginale puisqu'ils se sont "lavés" des impuretés (c'est à dire, que l'éjaculation, si éjaculation il y a eu, a eu lieu à l'air libre)
Un autre hadith:
`A'icha (qu'Allah soit satisfait d'elle) a dit: Chaque fois que l'une de nous avait ses menstrues et que l'Envoyé d'Allah (pbAsl) voulait la toucher, il lui ordonnait de mettre un pagne, après quoi il la touchait.
Au dessus du pagne, il n'y avait même pas de contact physique...
D'autres hadith (que je n'ai pas le temps de te traduire) sont encore plus clairs:
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) stated that this is permissible when he forbade intercourse in the vagina with a menstruating woman, but he permitted all other parts of her body. So it is more obvious that it is permissible at times other than menstruation.
It is permissible to enjoy what is above and below the waist wrapper (izaar), but the woman should be wrapped in a waist wrapper, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to tell ‘Aa’ishah to wrap herself in a waist-wrapper when she was menstruating, then he would be intimate with her. He told her to do that lest he saw something that he disliked, namely the menstrual blood. But if the husband wants to enjoy the area between the thighs, for example, there is nothing wrong with that.
“Do everything apart from intercourse” may be taken as being addressed to one who can control himself, and the words, “You have that which is above the waist-wrapper” may be taken as being addressed to one who cannot control himself, either because his religious commitment is too weak or his desire is too strong.
Plus d'info ici:
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/47721 (en anglais)
Honte à toi de calomnier le prophète saws en disant qu'il a désobéi à Allah !